Let’s just be clear about one thing. I think the movie Bridesmaids was pure crap. The jokes were predictable, over-the-top and lasted for way too long. This film might have been funny if the humor didn’t seem so forced: I wouldn’t have been surprised if they used a laugh track.
Now that’s not the only reason I am not having bridesmaids at my wedding, but it helped in making my decision.
I’m not having bridesmaids at my wedding mainly because there is not going to be a ceremony. I also don’t believe in compelling people to wear a particular outfit, rehearse a task as simple as walking, etc, etc. I’m trying to get people to attend my winter wedding, not give them more reasons to find a way out of coming.
That’s not to say that being a bridesmaid is a difficult task. I was the maid of honor for my sister’s wedding and it was the easiest gig I ever had. I just let all of the other bridesmaids do the planning and I showed up.
Having bridesmaids meant that I would have had to rank my friends in some random order and assign them special responsibilities during the reception. Frankly, that seemed like more work for me so I opted out.
However, in keeping with the spirit of weddings, and for those friends of mine who feel they should be highlighted as a close friend or special person in my life, I will gladly give them the title of being my BIS (Bridesmaid in Spirit).
How does a person become a BIS? It’s easy. Anyone who wants to can be one. Husbands, relatives, even dead royalty from the Middle Ages can be a BIS at my wedding. If you’re not sure if we’re close enough for you to be my BIS, it doesn’t matter. Be one anyway. If you think you might be a BIS and don’t care for the title, that’s fine by me too. My BISSES have no responsibilities and they don’t even have to show up.